Every moment in our lives presents us with options. Every option allows us the opportunity to make a choice. Every choice shapes our future.
Choices Abound and Empower
Choice provides us with the opportunity to shape our future.
When this idea is in your consciousness, it unleashes an enormous sense of autonomy and empowerment.
There are subtle moments continually throughout our days that provide us with the opportunity to make a choice. I don’t mean, “What shall I have for dinner?” or that kind of thing, but those initially almost-impossible-to-perceive moments that really provide the chance to make a choice that can create monumental changes in our lives.
My First Choice Experience
In my book, Conversations About the Self I share a story about my first experience of recognising this.
It goes like this:
I had a favourite pair of sunglasses. They didn’t look cool. They had even lost an arm. But I wore them anyway. Why? Because they made rainbows on the clouds and everywhere that I looked.
These were my all-time ultimate favourite sunglasses.
One day, I was out with a friend. We were walking along a pier and I was enjoying the fresh air, the water and, yes, the rainbows. When, all of a sudden, out of nowhere, a wind came up and blew my sunglasses right off my face and into the water below.
I stopped in my tracks.
I watched my one-armed sunglasses sink into the deep water.
I had a “moment” where I realised that I could cry or I could laugh. I realised that I had a choice. I had a choice about how I felt about that incident.
I decided to laugh. My friend was astonished. So was I.
Retelling this story now, I can see another meaning that I had not noticed before. There was a pot of gold at the end of my rainbow.
So, from this point forward, pause, take a breath and decide which way you are going for everything that happens in your life. Reshape those 60,000+ daily thoughts. Make them your own. Live the life of your dreams.
Choice in a Nutshell
This entire concept is here in a nutshell for you.
Every action, every choice and every thoughtLucinda Curran
Is like a brushstroke on the canvas of our lives.
What will your painting be like?
Choosing to Make More Choices Consciously?
STEP 1: PAUSE
This sounds easy, but can be quite difficult.
When things happen, PAUSE.
Pausing allows you to bring consciousness to the situation. It can help shift you from REACT and into RESPOND.
STEP 2: CONSIDER YOUR CHOICES
Initially, moving out from behind the protective shield of REACT can be challenging. Choices may not seem so apparent.
Please persist, the choices will begin to become apparent much more quickly if you do this often.
STEP 3: CONSIDER THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR CHOICES
Run through the pros and cons of each choice.
If time allows – and in particular, if it is a large decision – write lists so you can compare.
Give yourself permission to take time to make choices and then let relevant others know. For example, “I am going to need a little time to reflect on that. I will get back to you,” or, “I am feeling a bit pressured to make a choice, but I want to have some time to think about it rationally.” That kind of thing.
STEP 4: CHOOSE
Make your choice.
STEP 5: DO THIS PROCESS OFTEN
As I said, this process gets easier with practice. Doing it often means that the entire process may take around a second – literally.
STEP 6: ENJOY THE FREEDOM THAT COMES FROM CONSCIOUSLY MAKING A CHOICE
… and let me know! I love to hear of your successes!!
Sound Healing provides an excellent place to get still and make clear, conscious choices. Check out how to work with me.
Originally written by and published by Lucinda Curran on 23 January, 2016.